Situationships

By Bernardo Filipe / January 6, 2026

Grok’s definition of situationship: “A situationship is a romantic or sexual connection that’s somewhere between casual hookups and a full-on committed relationship—more than friends with benefits, but without any official labels, exclusivity, or clear commitment.”

The idea of being in a so-called situationship sounds depressing. It just seems the guy is not serious about the girl he is seeing and is just fooling around and kind of taking advantage of her (emotionally, intellectually, and physically), never fully committing to her. It must feel depressing and humiliating to be in such a relationship if you are a woman. So I can see why a situationship can be “very intense” to a girl, and that’s indeed what a girl recently told me about her own. But the fact that she was not even embarrassed to be in a situationship and openly admitted to being in one, practically as soon as I showed her I was interested in her, after having talked to each other less than one hour in total, gave me mixed feelings. On one hand, she was honest. But on the other, what kind of self-respecting woman would allow herself to be in a situationship in the first place. It only makes sense if she really loves him, in which case it’s a turn-off: her heart already belongs to another man. But then why not just tell me she has a boyfriend? Of course, she might have told me that because she wanted to subtly suggest she was unhappy with her situationship and was open to dating me. Otherwise, she would have outright told me she had a boyfriend and that would be the end of it.

[10.07.2026 update:] This girl ended up ghosting me shortly after and didn’t even show up to the date we had agreed on. This text/aphorism was written close to the point at which I finally gave up on European women (even though I am European myself). They can’t keep up with me and I understand why perfectly. I am too fast (or too slow: it amounts to the same). Gotta find a wife in hyperchina, which is what I am planning to do, since they are the fastest and the distance to get there, from where I am at now, is immense.